We engage in conversations with people, listen to national news, and work within teams that can drain us. We engage with a mix of positive and negative thoughts, ideas and people every day.  It’s now time for humanity to stop being drained by negativity.

Today, you will learn some tools to help stop the energy drain.
But first, let’s distinguish negative from positive.

Negativity creates disappointment and competition.
Negativity sees me as the winner, and you as the loser.
Negativity includes arrogance, selfishness and blaming others.

Negativity shows up within us and around us.
Negativity lives within judgment.
Negativity makes you wrong.
Negativity feeds shame.

Positivity creates equanimity and fellowship.
Positivity sees each person as a powerful creator.
Positivity includes optimism, empathy and compassion.
Positivity shows up within and around us.
Positivity lives within acceptance.
Positivity makes you happy.
Positivity creates joy.

Most times, you won’t hear another ask permission to share their negativity with you. You will get caught up in conversations and situations with people that are rooted in negativity. It starts as a simple “Hello, how are you?”  It continues from there.  The person who’s sensitive and caring typically leaves feeling drained and tired.



There are basic to intermediate skills in navigating negativity. The more advanced skills come with your level of energetic awareness and allow you to project love verses absorbing negativity.  Concepts and techniques to help you deal with negativity include:

1. DISCERN – Listen, ask and feel before engaging with another person. You will receive one of three answer – an absolute yes, a clear no, or an anxious no. A strong yes or no – has no emotion or thought. It’s a clear answer. An anxious no reveals fear, perception or projections that create resistance within you.

2. BEAM – Once you’ve made a decision, stand by your decision. If this person is someone you must dealing with in your life, be careful to stay within your energy field. Avoid “tasting” any part of them during a conversation. This means, you do not go deeper into the vibrations that they hold or try to figure out more in those moments. Instead, stay in your heart, beaming out your beautiful energy. See beautiful energy around that person and, smile. In this way, you engage them with distance even if, you’re sitting right next to them.

3. DEFLECT – This approach is unique. You would take it upon yourself to not engage with the other person’s topic as presented to you. In this case, you stand back, listen at a distance without trying to convince. You do not agree or respond in any way to the topic of choice. You then pivot into some other topic that feel better to you. In this way, you change the full dynamics by deflection.

4. AVOID Simple tactic. Stand back from those people that are heavy, inconsiderate or energy suckers. They are only interested in sharing their pain with you. They are not looking for help or a solution. They want to off-load or complain as their primary technique in dealing with life. They want you to join them. You avoid them when you stand back from eye contact and, keep yourself busy in other ways. Additionally, you can smile and be silly as they complain – which, will only irritate them.

5. ADDRESS – State your truth as you see it. Maintain your composure with a careful but, strong stance. You can add some humor or, use some tactical phrases first that give you permission to speak. Try out phrases like: “Do you want to know my thoughts?”; “I hope you’re not offended by my directness but……” or, “It might be upsetting to you but….” Keep these conversations short, sweet and to the point. You are not trying to convince them or anyone else. Speak your truth in neutral tone, without judgement.

6. ASSERT – Sometimes, the only way to take back our power is by drawing a firm boundary. We must speak! There is a time when this type of confrontation may be unavoidable. Don’t be afraid of your fire and the results that come from asserting yourself in direct ways.

I hope you experiment with these concepts to enjoy balance and harmony in your life. It’s time to maximize the joy-factor in our lives… time to stop negativity from impacting you.

Much Love,



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is a powerful channel of high vibrational, healing energies.  She serves today as an Awakening Speaker, Evolutionary Guide and a Master Healer. As a perpetual student of life, Michelle holds many healing certifications, and is a graduate of the Orin & DaBen Awakening Light Body Program.  Michelle awakens and guides heart-centered individuals on the Path to Joyful Expansion.

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