Have you heard of the word resistance?
What about the phrase, what you resist persists?
Resistance is a natural way of coping with certain situations in life. It’s an inner dynamic of pushing forward or pulling back from thoughts, ideas, concepts or beliefs that challenge us. We resist what we see/perceive as wrong, hurtful, unfavorable, or painful in some way.
This fight called ‘resistance’ is be active or passive. As individuals, we can be consciously aware of this dynamic, or totally unaware of what is actually taking place. Many times, we find ourselves repeating patterns within relationships – unconscious until we experience a stronger electrical charge in the form of emotional pain. We “fight” what we cannot or will not accept. We “fight” what goes against our beliefs, traditions, desires, plans or perceptions.
We resist in many ways. There’s the active fight. Other times, we respond passively – being stubborn – refusing to see, hear, acknowledge or accept whatever presents itself in front of us. In such situations, we tend to avoid, deny, and find a myriad of justifications in order to not take action or respond to the situation that is presenting itself to us.
Resistance comes with uncomfortable feelings.
In this and other upcoming blog posts, I plan to dive deeper into the details behind the definition of resistance, what resistance looks in our real life, the price we pay when resistance persists, and how we can move through it with more ease.
Let’s go a little deeper first…
Resistance is a response to situations, changes, and shifts that counter our beliefs, plans, and perceptions. Resistance is a natural process with a wide range in intensity. It shows up as a push forward or a pull back from something that is presented to us.
Resistance is accompanied by an uncomfortable feeling when faced with thoughts and ideas that are tough to accept, understand, or integrate into our consciousness.
Resistance is a gift. It shows up at the right time and in the right moment. It challenges our sense of stability and identity. It presents us with a choice to – move through it or, ignore it.
Resistance can be quite painful when we refuse to move through it, to allow, to adjust, to revise, to accept, to apologize, to bend, or to shift in some way.
Resistance subsides only when we surrender. We surrender by calming the mind, acknowledging the emotions, eliminating the fear narrative, and reducing the presence of drama on the scene.
We will never stop, control or fully eliminate this dynamic. Many times, we don’t notice this playing out in our lives until we are waist deep in painful.
Verifiably, control is a myth. We do not control what life brings our way. Our best approach is to manage the inside with an awareness of the transformational paths that lie before us. Our priority must be on empowerment, consciousness, and evolution.
Transformation comes as we move through to face challenges – rather than becoming stuck in them. We can much a lot from observing ourselves in resistance. We are attracting situations that allow us to eliminate stagnant energy, beliefs, and emotions. We are on a path to become the next best version of ourselves.
Resistance is something we need to welcome.
Resistance is part of our human response to changes within our personal evolution of consciousness. It precedes any and all transitions, endings, and re-directions in our life. It’s the gift that keeps on giving regardless of our plan.
Through challenges, we up-level ourselves – we can destroy what stands in our way – revisit and release mindset, emotions, perspectives, and actions that no longer serve us.
Evolution comes with every decision, relationship, and synchronicity. Evolution brings change with every acceleration, unforeseen stop, and 180 degree (sometimes 360 degree) turn.
Our best option is awareness, understanding, and acceptance. In this way, we can anticipate, recognize, and appreciate the process that precedes our personal evolution.
I hope you enjoyed this insight today. Stay tuned for future writings on this topic.